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EDIT: Thank you all so much for your thoughtful input. It means so much to me.

Hi, all. I'm looking to change my nasty tendency to be a sore loser, particularly when playing games. I tend to personalize losses that are of no consequence. When the game starts to shift against me, I often stop trying as hard because it feels hopeless. My partner is much more proficient at board games than I am, and I don't want this toxic trait of mine to make games less fun for us. What are some things you all tried to lessen this train of thought, if you've experienced it?

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I looked at losses as an opportunity to improve. I'll review the game, find my mistakes, and learn how to avoid them in the future. So when I lost at Crazy 8s I'd study. Just joking! I honestly don't care about Crazy 8s that much to study my losses. What am I trying to go pro??

I eventually realized that this applied to every game. I'm not going to be a pro chess player. I'm not going to be a pro bowler. I don't care that much to put the time and effort into studying and training the intricacies of Counter Strike. I'm just trying to have fun! That's when losing stopped bothering me so much.