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People who have been through tough timew, how did you keep moving? (lemmy.one)

submitted 11 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm a week late on rent due, I only paid half, I had to call all my credit card companies and utilities to tell them what's going on. And now my check engine light turned on because the bastard is misfiring. My wife lost her dad which fucked us both up due to missing a ton of work, and I don't know what to do. I'm tired of asking my family for help, the for bank is only available while I'm working, I work 2 jobs. My wife is working too and we're even took in a person to live in our spare room.

How in the world do people survive in this world when they don't even have time to be happy? I use upside for gas and shopping I'm enrolled in every stores rewards program, I make my own cleaning supplies to save money and cook from scratch. What else could I do to save money? Also with the looming government shutdown I'm going to be furloughed for however long that is. Also what are some apps you guys use to help save money? I guess this is a lot of questions.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Agreed. It is totally understandable to feel shitty about the situation. It sounds really hard and anyone would struggle with all of that.

My only suggestion to add is to remember to breathe deeply. Anytime you notice you're tense or feeling really bad, spend even 1 minute unclenching and taking several deep breaths from the very bottom of your lungs, let your shoulders drop, shake it out if you want.

It sounds stupid, and it won't solve the actual problems you're facing, and it may not even feel like it has done anything in that moment. But, it will reduce your body's chemical stress response just a little bit more each time you do it, allowing you to put that energy more easily into solutions. And that will help you keep moving just a little bit longer.

And, if nothing else, it's free, so worth trying.

I wish you much better times. Good luck.