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What are cis and trans alternate types of? I don't think it's "gender identity" because wouldn't that just be man, woman or nonbinary regardless of whether they're cis or trans? Cis/trans just being a qualifier?

If the answer is "I am cis" or "I am trans", what is the question?

Edit: Someone came up with the term "gender congruity" and (after looking up the definition of "congruity") I think this describes what I'm talking about perfectly.

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[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 year ago (10 children)

To a first approximation, they describe the match or mismatch between a person's gender identity and their assigned gender at birth.

"Cis" = "my gender identity matches my assigned gender at birth"
"Trans" = "my gender identity does not match my assigned gender at birth"

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I like the way you express this. "Cis / Trans" isn't about your gender, it's about whether your gender has CHANGED. (Although it may not be your GENDER that changed, but what people THOUGHT your gender was.)

In a similar way, I (a cis male) usually call myself "straight", but that's not really accurate. I don't feel like I'm attracted to whatever gender is different from mine (which happens to be women); I feel like I am attracted to women (which happens to be the gender that's different from mine).

Putting it differently, if some magical spell were to transform me into a woman, I don't imagine that I would then be attracted to men, I imagine that I would be attracted to women. So instead of calling myself "straight", I should probably be saying that I am "gynosexual" (attracted to women).

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I really really love the way you phrased that. Just thought I would let you know. Bookmarking your comment as a discussion point for the future as well.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Thank you. It's a thought that has been rolling around in my head for some time and this was my attempt to put it in words.

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