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As a general rule for dating apps, I've found for me, the best strategy for getting matches that turn into dates does not involve paying them. I'm not super attractive so it doesn't just happen on it's own, but if I leave the app alone for a few weeks/months, in an effort to drive your activity up, they will push your account to get you more matches. It works on me. I'll use the app for a day or 2, get a bunch of matches and some dates out of it, then they dry up and I stop using it again. Rinse and repeat. It's worked pretty consistently for a while now for me. But you have to stay completely off of it. Don't even open it to clear notifications or boredom scroll. When they say your account is about to become inactive, don't believe them. It'll come around and you'll get some notifications.
I don't know 100% that that's what's going on, but it's the thing that makes the most sense when using it gets me nothing but when I ignore the app, eventually I'll just get 2-5 matches in a single day out of nowhere.