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Bro , am handicaped.
Bro (but honestly you could've also used my name), I am handicapped by society, too.
If you are one of us don't throw pathologizing words around as slurs.
So, I should've wrote junefall instead of bro? (honest question ). I also don't get the handicapped by society thing.
the [none/use name] in that username is one of the pronouns you can use on hexbear. it's generally nice to try and respect people's requests and how they identify themselves. that being said, bro isn't the most egregious thing to call someone, but now that you know you can see them in hexbear and other instances usernames and know what they mean :)
No worries, Junefall rather than Bro. At least if you use "Bro" as gendered term (or you want to be friendly, then use the name or "you" instead).
Also before I write more: I read that you commented and read what others wrote and answered, so I want to iterate that you are welcome here. You seem to be good faithed.
I dislike labeling myself as handicapped (well in my first language), as while my body and head work different to most of my friends and the people I meet outside there is no "norm", no default to which to conform to. Our bodies just are, they are shaped by evolution and such, but each body is unique and individual, there is no idealist perfected version of me. So while I can do some things and can't do other things are well or better than others mostly I am handicapped by society.
Society demands a ton of stuff which is not possible for me and stuff that is easy for me they act as if it is a hard incomprehensible thing to do. A friend of mine uses a wheelchair and society builds doors which in old buildings are often too small to get in, this is discrimination (handicap) by society, she does also bring her own chair to events (the wheelchair) which sometimes is troublesome when the tables or chairs in the room are bolted down to the ground and it also means that society does accommodate for people who need chairs (though not for me who can't properly sit on most chairs).
Basically my body is as it is and got its problems which could be better, but that is just life. I use tools and medication to improve how it works, but what I can and can't do is often mediated by society and society is which does actively handicap me. It is a concept I didn't come up with, but which re-framed how I think, so I just took it for me. Some aspects of it are covered under the so called: Social model of disability, but it isn't a 100% fit for me.
I apologize then.
On side note : both of the language am very familiar with aside from English are heavily gendered and it affects how i use language in my brain. A bit like how Russian people have two words for the light and dark shade of blue which made them faster at detecting difference in the shading of that color and according to some harder to learn the English word for blue due to the lack of this distinction.
Also , it's important to note that In most of the gendered languages the masculine form is neutral and in my mind i wasn't gendering you but just using a word used to call someone attention.
All this to say that i believe oneself shouldn't bound it's perception of self to language since there are thousands of languages all very different from each other and people coming from them to English are implicitly affected by their mother tongue and any other language they may know. Just be yourself in life and leave abstraction of ideas to be just that. If words can't define you, they shouldn't affect how you view yourself.
Sorry, if i touch a sensitive issue.