Transfem

Continuing from before...

Pass/Passing - Passing is a term that means that when you're among strangers, your appearance and behaviours so closely mimic your chosen gender that strangers aren't aware that you're transgender unless you choose to share that information.

Clocking/Getting Clocked - This is a term transgender people use to describe a situation where you've been publicly outed as a transgender person. It's basically the opposite of passing.

Misgendering - This is a term for when someone uses the wrong pronouns to refer to a transgender person. Usually transwomen are she/her, transmen are he/him, and non-binary people are they/them. That's not always the case, but try to respect people's pronouns.

TW/CW (Trigger Warning/Content Warning) - These are not specifically terms of the transgender community but it's something you'll often see in safe spaces. It's just a warning that the proceeding content might trigger sensitive people. You might see something like "TW/CW transphobia" which warns you that if you're particularly sensitive to transphobia, you might not want to read ahead.

This post is getting really long so I'm gonna wrap it up. I hope that was helpful!

I just want to end with a concept rather than terminology. The most important thing in being a good ally is don't draw unwanted attention to transgender people.

A good example of that is the issue with pronouns. If transgender people are the only ones that introduce themselves by saying their name and their pronouns, then they're essentially clocking themselves by introducing themselves that way, but if they don't then they're risking people misgendering them.

It's also not great for you to ask for a person's pronouns because if you ask a transgender person that question, they could easily interpret the question as implying that you've clocked them. Instead, it's best if allies insist on introducing themselves by using name and pronouns even if they're cisgender.

It's like with the word "partner". It used to be that if you said "my partner" it basically meant you were gay. So gay people would be forced to out themselves by saying (husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend/etc) or trying to be ambiguous and saying "partner". Allies have taken it upon themselves to start using the term "partner" even in cis-straight relationships to help give gay people the option on whether they want to out themselves or not when referring to their partner.

Basically, just try to be kind, try not to clock us, and listen and learn when corrected by a transgender person. And you might have noticed that I try to say "transgender person" as much as possible. That's a good habit to get into because it humanizes us and reinforces in your head that we are people and deserve the same rights and respect as everyone else. Thanks for reading! 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈