SEE SECOND EDIT DOWN BELOW
Lets not beat around the bush here, lots of people like to look at boobs and dicks.
Lemmynsfw was looking like a good place to go, but reading the "Loli" announcement thread where they equate drawn child porn to petite women, its clear the owner is not the right person to be hosting a NSFW instance for the majority of people.
Is there anywhere else that people can recommend?
There is undoubtably a need for such an instance. Can we discuss this like adults?
edit: UPDATE
Take this update as you will
I'm taking it as a backtrack, but it's still not an instance I want to associate with.
Lots of people keen to offer their opinion of drawn picture of naked kids, haven't seen any alternatives though
Edit 2: At this point I think their updated rules are good. It took a bit to get there, but in the end they appear to be taking a hard stance. Hopefully this is enforced.
I dont think it was a case of "whoops bad English" like they are suggesting, I think it was a total 180 backflip. This doesnt really instill confidence in the admins IMO, but im happy that they have made the right decision in regards to allowed content. Hopefully this is was just some early wobblies and the community can move on.
Sure. I'm speaking in terms of content, culture, beliefs. by default, kbin should not defederate. Defederation is a severe action that should only be taken in extreme circumstances, such as extremely illegal things, or those which can directly lead to harm. For example, I'd be okay with defederating from an instance that's used to organize human trafficking. In an ideal I think that ultimately speech harms no one. drawings harm no one, and should be allowed in all cases; but it's understandable that such things may be illegal (in which case defederation is obviously needed to comply with law). In certain situations platforms may/can be used to cause real world harm, such as nonconsensual pornography, human trafficking, etc. in these cases, defederating I'd support to reduce the harm done to the real people effected. These aren't a matter of "oh no they offended me" but rather "perpetuating this content actively harms the subject".
Loli/Shota drawn artwork are drawings first and foremost, let's not forget that. They do not harm anyone and cannot harm anyone. In this sense, they should be allowed unless the law dictates otherwise.
When I say "kbin should be federated with all other instance" I mean: if I'm on kbin and wish to see certain content, or talk with certain people, I shouldn't have to worry about admins being offended or disgusted by such topics. The case of nonconsensual pornography is not a topic or genre it is not a form of speech it's a violation of consent. You can get identical content with proper consent. In that regard, cutting off such instances does not prevent people from enjoying the content they wish and speaking to those they wish.
In practice, ethics and morality can often clash with the law. For instance, I think piracy is morally right and just, yet it is obviously illegal. In this case, while I would appreciate and support federation with instances that allow blatant piracy, it's understandable why defederation might be needed in that case. Similarly the reverse is true, some blatantly heinous content may be legal in certain areas (such as the scenario presented about nonconsensual pornography), in this case I do support going further than the law to protect the victims.
There's a difference between discussing murder, and planning murder. There's a difference between enjoying fictional murder scenarios, and allowing the sharing of photographs of your murder victims. Hopefully you can understand this?