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oh there are lots of ways.
unfortunately a lot of the time, it doesn’t get any easier.
that being said, it all starts with knowing and understanding that, if you love who you are, those mistakes helped make you who you are.
personally that helped me come to peace with the fact that i had fucked up so badly.
next is atonement to yourself and others. that means learning to prevent the mistake from occurring again in the future, helping others that you recognize are making the same mistake so that they don’t have to suffer like you did, and if you hurt someone, apologizing to that person for both their and your own healings sake. sometimes it also means apologizing to yourself.
you do have to understand, though, that people change over time. our mistakes make us who we are. and you are not the same person you were when you originally made the mistake.
last and most unpleasant advice i can give is to allow the feelings to wash over you. our brain is capable of experiencing so many emotions, and each emotion serves a very important purpose. we tend to lead lives that shy away from the unpleasant emotions, but there is value to be had in experiencing them. feeling the shame of making a mistake can drive you to never make that mistake again. that’s valuable, even if it is unpleasant for a time.
signed, a guy working his ass off to be a perfect candidate for a liver transplant after a series of stupid shit decisions and drinking occurred during a divorce and a layoff.
it gets better bro.
Hey man, I hope you get a liver. The world needs more people like you to stick around as long as possible
i’ll try my damnedest. i got stubbornness and spite and hope all working overtime