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What is a hobby you enjoy, but seems too quirky or obscure to bring up in most conversations? (lemmy.sdf.org)

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Mine would be creating pen and paper ciphers for my made up secret communication needs.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hey, another fellow lolita!! I'm sorry to hear your local comms are so toxic. I live in Germany and I'm lucky that the comm local to me is incredibly welcoming and fun.

I'm plus size, but wear almost exclusively brand, so I have some experience with alterations too. I highly recommend checking if your pieces have pockets, because I've been able to extend the sizing of a dress by 10 to 15 cm using pocket fabric alone. I'm happy to answer questions if you're interested in alterations.

I can only speak from my personal experience, but the online communities I'm a part of on discord are really friendly too. I'm on the plus size lolita discord, but that obviously might not be relevant to you. If you're interested in finding a community, you might have to dig a little but there are friendly communities out there. But it's completely valid if you'd rather just wear lolita by yourself. They are just clothes at the end of the day.

Sending positive vibes your way 💙 (I'm just up so I'm sorry if my thoughts are kinda scattered lol)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I’m plus size, but wear almost exclusively brand, so I have some experience with alterations too. I highly recommend checking if your pieces have pockets, because I’ve been able to extend the sizing of a dress by 10 to 15 cm using pocket fabric alone. I’m happy to answer questions if you’re interested in alterations.

Oh yeah I'm familiar with this! In my case its more about finding a seamstress to do the alteration and the cost of the alteration in addition to buying a dress. I do have some dresses and skirts that are altered.

the plus size discord sounds great but I rarely have anything regarding lolita to post now a days. I use to put together coords and now I just kind of wear it more casually and I'm sure a lot of people would call it "ita" lol

I'm hoping I can get my dresses to fit more comfortably like they use to and then I might start wearing more of my wardrobe again. I use to dress up like 3 or 4 times a week. Now its like maybe once or twice a month. Although I still try to buy dresses too? I currently have a tab open for a metamorphose dress I came across.

And no worries, my thoughts are always scattered lol