WomensStuff

I think this is generally a good policy, but I'm going to add a tiny bit of nuance if that's alright. Language is changing and evolving constantly and nonuniformly: what might have been a slur decades ago is now a proper academic term ("queer") and what would have been lightly negative schoolyard insult is now pretty heinous in most circles (r* slur).

I think the important takeaway here is that you can't reclaim slurs for groups you are not a part of, full stop. If someone from a group requests to be referred to by something that sounds disrespectful to you (it/its pronouns is a huge one), it's not up to you to decide better for that person, you know? But you shouldn't also extrapolate that to other people of that group without confirming with individuals either.

For a quick example, when I came out to my mom she was horrified that I would use queer to describe my sexuality and my community, because she had only ever known that word as a slur. But we talked it out and she understands now that you can say queer with pride instead of hate, you know?

So I'm okay getting outpaced by folks who want to feel empowered by language that has been used to put them and their community down in the past (and I think little shits making people feel bad by saying they're reclaiming something they don't have a claim to should be told to fuck off and grow up).