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People who wear band shirts, does this actually happen?
Nope. Every once in a long while someone will say "Nice shirt!".
Hey mostly men on Lemmy, does this even happen? No? Checkmate, women.
I wasn't asking a particular gender. I was asking people in general. I don't wear band shirts so I was curious what those who did had experienced. I've never witnessed it even when I was younger and band shirts were practically the dress code. The original screenshot isn't even gendered so I'm not sure where this hostility is coming from.
The screenshot is gendered and was posted in the witchesvspatriarchy community.
The only gendered part about it was "especially as a young woman" which implies that either men or women could be asked that question. Unless something has changed recently and only women can wear band shirts now. But whatever, I'm sorry my post offended you. I didn't intend for it to be dismissive towards women.
I had a person in the grocery store run up to me and recite the first half of a verse to me hoping I'd respond. I said something like "what?" as they pointed to my shirt and repeated themself. I then appropriately finished the verse and smiled.
You and I are very different people. I don't care if I had the bands entire discography memorized, there is no way I'm rewarding that behavior.
Aww, that's a little sad. If somebody is so jazzed about a band that they get up the courage to sing in public, I can certainly return a few bars.
I had a person come up to me at pride yesterday and blurt out something about my wardrobe. It was kind of awkward and my first response was to be defensive because I've received a lot of abuse in my life, but I remembered where I was and it enabled me to see that probably, this person did not mean me harm and just wanted to interact. We did and I made a new neurodivergent friend. Maybe we can both lighten the fuck up.
Certainly couldn't hurt... This did remind me of the time some random dude in the shampoo isle at target started a conversation with me about my watch. It's not a particularly nice watch or anything but he had just bought one himself and was excited to talk to someone about it. It kind of weirded me out at first but it wasn't a bad experience overall.
… no. Although 2ce when I wore death metal band t shirt while walking my dog a car started blasting one of their songs. At least I thought it was one of their songs…. I went to the show that time and saw them live and they were great so I wanted to support them by buying merch. I have a ton of shirts like that.
To me, a dude, who's been wearing band shirts for the past 18 years? Never.
My girlfriend who buys band shirts at shows I take her to because she had just heard them for the first time and thought they sounded cool? Also never.
My friend was wearing a Ramones shirt and I asked her to name a single member of the band.