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Any drama must be posted as an observer, you cannot post drama that you are involved with.
When posting screenshots of drama, you must obscure the identity of all the participants.
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Chronicle the life and tale of the fediverse (+ matrix)

Largely a sublemmy about capturing drama, from fediverse spanning drama to just lemmy drama.

Includes lore like how a instance got it's name, how an instance got defederated, how an admin got doxxed, fedihistory etc

(New) This sub's intentions is to an archive/newspaper, as in preferably don't get into fights with each other or the ppl featured in the drama

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It Really Felt Like 2 Friends Fighting (lemmy.ca)

submitted 3 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago (3 children)

If you insist on respecting that user's identity, I suggest you first open their profile and look at what they actually mean by "drag/dragon rider".

Drag is a fucking scalie who wants to be referred to by their kink.

[–] southsamurai 3 points 2 days ago (2 children)

And?

You act like my approval or disapproval of their hobbies, lifestyle, or whatever is supposed to change basic decency. It doesn't.

There are limits to what I'll call someone for sure. I'm not calling anyone master. Beyond that, it's just good manners to try and call people what they prefer, within the limits of our own capabilities. DR knows my brain is fucked and it would make it a nightmare to have a conversation if I tried to use the person-independent neopronoun reliably, so they don't give me shit about screwing up.

That's basic decency.

If I'm talking to a preacher and they prefer to be called reverend, I'll call them that, and that's someone who talks to their imaginary sky friend on a daily basis. Wanting to fuck a dragon isn't any weirder than that. It's just basic decency.

Out here irl, people sometimes use my middle name instead of my first. Usually because they know a family member that talked about me. But I don't let anyone but family use my middle name. The people that refuse to honor that are assholes, and I have nothing else to do with them. Because it's just basic decency.

If DR was wanting to be called furher, or messiah, I can see refusing to use their preferred terms. But they aren't.

And it doesn't even matter if they were trolling because someone else's bad actions aren't an automatic excuse to be an asshole too.

What kind of person do you want to be? The sort that errs on the side of kindness and manners, or the sort that's an asshole? That's what it comes down to.