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I have a 16-year-old son. I'm in my early 30s (had him very young) and a professional footballer. My son also dreams of becoming a successful footballer (he's been playing since he was 6), but he's just... not great. He's good, but not great - and in this extremely competitive industry you need to be at least great in order to even stand a chance. So I told him, as someone who's been doing this for a very, very long time & is active in this sphere, that he should find another, more attainable dream. He took it as me not believing in him, but I'm just objective and realistic.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Since you are a professional who has happened to make it with some level of success, you know firsthand that there are a lot of excellent people who didn't manage it for one reason or another. (And it's not always because of lack of talent, they might have just gotten the wrong injury). How did they manage things when they finally came to terms with the fact they wouldn't make a living doing that? What did they have to fall back on? Are they coaching? Teaching? Selling real estate or insurance?

There is nothing wrong with him chasing his dream, but make sure he has an alternative planned. Make him talk to some of those people, and find his own path. Don't focus on whether or not he has the talent to make it, but on the fact that even people with all the talent sometimes don't make it, through no fault of their own. Hope for the best, plan for the worst.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

Depends on when they came to terms with it. The ones who did early on (like if my son did now) just did a 180° easily and moved onto something else. Those who did later on either did a 180° as well, teaching or coaching (this is a tricky one as great coaches / managers tend to be former pro players themselves - it’s a bit harder to breakthrough here).