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My mum often wonders why she has barely a relationship with any of her 5 kids, of which I'm the youngest. However, her eldest is on life support with a couple of days left and she's already declared that she won't be going to the funeral because "you don't know how much she's hurt me!" (yes, I do, now grow the fuck up)
Similar to dumblederp, I saw what my siblings and I went through and decided that along with the fact that I was born without a maternal bone in my body, I wasn't going to risk raising kids and turning out like my parents.
Sorry, not the answer, but also an opportunity to trauma dump.
some women are born to be mothers. Some are born to be the cool aunt. Some are born to stay as far away from children as possible. It's fucking critical that you discover which one you are before it's too late. Big fat kudos to you for the self awareness many lack.
I love being a mother so much.
I love this for you, but knew it was never in my future. I told my mother when I was 17 that I was never having kids, she looked me dead in the eyes and said "good".
That's an excellent way to phrase it, thank you!
Aye. I began saying at 8 that I didn’t want kids and life has confirmed it was a good choice.
I am pursuing my childhood dream of being a cat lady.
"But its not ABOUT you you narcissist b****" woulda been my reply there. 100% something my psycho mum would say too btw. Sorry for your loss.