Actually Intersex

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A lemmy community by and for intersex people. Perisex (non-intersex) people can participate but respect the vibe.

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RULES:

Be kind to one another.
No harassment or hate speech.
Be as accessible as you can.
This is a space for intersex people. Perisex people may participate but don't be disruptive. This isn't a place for you to work out your intersexism.

GROUND TRUTHS:

Intersex is a big tent. Some people see intersex in medical terms. Some people see intersex through the social model. Some see it as a mix. Some people see intersex as queer. Some see intersex as disabled/crip. Some see it as both. You get the deal. There's no single way to be intersex.
Anybody who experiences or is vulnerable to intersexism gets to call themself intersex if they want. That includes people with PCOS hyperandrogenism, people with Poland syndrome, and people who don't have diagnoses.
TERFs and the alt-right are on a campaign to convince people that intersex is rare, biological sex is simple, and actually intersex people aren't the experts on who is intersex. We need to resist this.
Solidarity with the trans community. While intersex and transness are distinct, our communities have fundamental common ground in being threats to cisperinormitivity.

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Futa is a slur and shouldn't be used. (pastebin.com)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/22392872

The word futa or futanari is a term I unfortunately see used against trans women and actual intersex people. It is a term which originated in porn and anime to describe someone with both types of genitals, usually though it just refers to someone who looks feminine and has a penis. So it's no surprise it's very often used to describe non-op trans women primarily. Because it's often used in porn it carries strong connotations of sexualization and dehumanization, it reduces the person being called futa to an object of sexual desire and doesn't respect them as a person.

This term is extremely disrespectful and really has no place being used, especially in reference to trans women. Additionally because of its relation to porn people who use it will almost certainly be seen as chasers.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think that's all reasonable. I should make it clear that I would never use futa or futanari to describe anyone without them telling me it's okay. Effectively, I think that makes it controlled language, ergo a slur.

I would like to maintain that the people who likely made futa and futanari into a slur are not Japanese themselves. Rather, they are American 4chan incel types, who consume that type of media in the first place and who are also transphobic. Blaming Japanese people for a loaned word becoming a slur is ridiculous.

Also, if you were to try to reclaim futa or futanari, it's probably best to add the honorific "o-" prefix to it. So, it would be お二形 or お二 or ofutanari or ofuta. Kinda silly and it will probably never take off in English use.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 23 hours ago

Rather, they are American 4chan incel types, who consume that type of media in the first place and who are also transphobic.

Yep, it's exactly that context this triggered this discussion.

No one is blaming Japanese folk, nor even the term as used in Japanese. The context here is chasers that exist on lemmy that find and interact with trans communities, using terms like this