Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I appreciate the sentiment. Thank you. We need all the support we can get.
I also want to take advantage of this post to share a bit about what's going through my mind right now, being a trans person in tech who has been out of work for a long time.
When large companies hide all of their diversity, equity and inclusion advocacy, this is sending a message to their employees. I don't have the privilege of passing for cis. When I interview with a hiring manager the fact that I'm trans is as visible as the nose on my face. And when it comes to making a hiring decision, that manager is forced to account for my trans-ness in their decision-making.
Hiring a transgender person can be perceived as stepping into a minefield of new problems that this manager may have never dealt with before. What if they slip-up and misgender me? Will I cry, or freak out, or rat them out to HR or the media? What if fellow teammates or coworkers aren't socially accepting? Or a customer? How will these problems that I face reflect on them as a manager? Business leaders at the highest levels have made a point to memory-hole their LGBTQ+ advocacy, so not only is my presence on their team no longer a boon to my manager for embodying diversity values, they can almost certainly no longer count on any air support from leadership if I were to run into any interpersonal problems. That manager would be on their own.
That's a lot. Then consider that all of that risk and uncertainty could be avoided if the manager just picked somebody else to hire.
That's the world I've been living in, and it's only gotten worse.
This problem isn't unique to folks like me, either. Swap out "trans" for any of the other marginalized groups that diversity, equity and inclusion initiatives sough to protect: disabled people, English-second-language speakers, black and brown folks, single parents. This is going to be a reality for all of them, too.
So thank you for your support, and thank you for giving me the opportunity to put these feelings into words that can live outside my brain for a change. They tend to echo with every "we've selected another candidate" email I get.
That's very well written, thank you for sharing it. Maybe you could start a blog or a tiktok channel about your experience.