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Also the phrase it almost exclusively self-refferentially in practice.
Then there's the sub Reddit and several Lemmy communities called egg_irl which accuse people of being an egg due to something they said or a picture they shared.
I think that's where "egg" is used badly
Well it certainly isn't on [email protected], at least not if I have anything to say about it. Anyone who does will get posts removed, or even bans handed out. The instance doesn't take too kindly to it either.
But Reddit though... yeah... it's really bad there. Don't go on the Reddit communities if you value your sanity and happiness. Not just egg_irl but traa too, and I think even 196 on Reddit suffers from it unfortunately.
Yeah, I like that one ([email protected]) as it is generally about fictional characters
It's not always like that, but it sometimes does become that. It often is just trans or closeted people memeing on their own behavior with the understanding that those behaviors don't make them trans. That said, it can be tricky to not overstep bounds or imply the wrong thing. I think it's a force for good overall, but there are a few things to remember when observing it or participating in it.
Definitely, it's almost always either someone that's not quite ready to come out or trans people talking about their pre-transition selves. There is a small minority of people who are very insistent on calling other people eggs and seem to think they're helping, but really are contributing to an environment with more rigid gender roles.
It's unfortunate because a lot of the time I think what they're really wanting to do is talk about their own experiences and how things clicked together for them, but are way overgeneralizing about it and projecting it onto other people.