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Almost always, I used to be shy and bashful but I don't have time for that shit anymore. I've eaten too much grief from miscommunication to care about how people will judge me - if they're someone I want to connect with in the future they won't judge me and if they judge me I don't give a shit about them.
My two exceptions are 1) money is involved (I absolutely will withhold neurodivergence from potential future employers or business partners because I've got enough disabilities already) and 2) I'm not the primary in the social situation (an example is that I had on all my masks and even wore fucking pants to my aunt's funeral. It was in the south and I didn't want to cause him any trouble beyond everything he was already dealing with).
Normally, though, I wear my ADHD plastered to my fucking forehead because why the fuck not.
I just recently have been navigating telling people around me. And I love your rules. Only difference is that if I am in a professional setting I sometimes mention my “symptoms” as “personality traits” without mentioning ADHD just to manage expectations
That is extremely fair - and I was purposefully vague about what is included in the profession setting. I'm actually quite open with my fellow FTEs once I have landed a position - I'm just quiet before things are set in stone.