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it would work better if it was "women swipe first'. men can look at and swipe the women who swiped them already. this solves two problems:
please give me 1 million dollars
That's the premium feature in pretty much every dating app. You get to see who likes you but you have to pay the money to find out if anyone swiped on you at all.
They imply that lots of people swiped on you but you don't actually know until after you've given the money.
So basically your plan is to just remove the con part which I'm all in favor of.
thanks
Facebook dating kinda has this where you get notified if someone likes you Ironically it works better than any other dating app. The whole swipe til you both match deal is just to keep people paying and using the app for longer
Now if Facebook Dating would increase it's freaking character limit for profile bios, it'd be perfect. But nooooo...
Would be totally cool if I wasn't completely certain that they would use that against me.
Oh definitely, it doesn’t work good for the sake of its users
This means men will see many fewer women on the platform in many cases.
it means men would not spend hours on the app, which means nobody would ever do this
Who wants men spending hours on the app and why? Most of these are subscription-based, not ad-supported.
Sure, but you've got to build that habit of checking the app. Gotta lure people back for more little hits of dopamine. The men aren't going to subscribe (or at least stay subscribed) if they aren't getting that illusion of lots of options for people to date.
i dunno i thought that was the goal of all apps. it's free money basically
No, it's the goal of apps that want to serve as many advertisements as humanly possible. Most dating apps don't have any way to monetize your attention.
Exactly, Im 50 and Im not rich or particularly good looking. If I was straight I might only see 5 or 6 women on the app that would match with me to begin with and if those didn't become anything I'd be done with that app. It can't work
Would you rather see 5 or 6 women that all expressed interest in you or a thousand women who have never and probably will never even see you? Open the app, swipe 5 or 6 times, move on with your life.
This is very well put.
Exceptthe company that makes the app needs you to keep dating to make money. If ypu have 5 options and they don't pan out you are done with that app.
As someone who has spent a stupid amount of time browsing Tinder for shits & giggles, I'm not sure I wouldn't want that. But then again I'm gay and things work way differently for us. If I swipe right, it's very likely we match and then have a boring convo that goes nowhere. Maybe I suck at it but I never have any luck despite everything.
You're gonna have a boring convo on a chat app with a random stranger. You're both interested in each other, just ask to meet up. Do something interesting together and the conversation will flow naturally.
i am the most attractive sexy man in my entire giant city of 23 million people but i still have to swipe 50 girls to get 1 match and i might not even be that interested in her. better to meet girls in real life and follow them around on the tube and insert myself into their personal space 🚀
Yes, that's the idea. They wouldn't see anyone who hasn't already liked them.
Which means after the exhaust those few options they won't use that app again. No app developer will do this.
They're not "exhausting options". They're just only seeing the options that are actually available, rather than an endless stream of those that aren't.
You get that not seeing more people is the problem for the developer, right?
What?
If I see five options and then date those five and it goes nowhere if there aren't new potential matches presented regardless of suitability the user will go to a different app where they are given the illusion of more choice.
You think people will be happier to swipe endlessly for hours with extremely limited success than to open their app, look at 5 profiles and instantly find a match?
Over the long term I know that the app that has many potential matches will always outlast the one that has a handful to single digits.
You don't seem to understand the concept. There are no "potential matches". If they don't like you, you will never match with them.
No, you're misding the point. If a menu has ten items on it and you try those ten and none appeal to you then you'll stop going to that restaurant unless they offer you more options. Similarly if the dating app only offers five or six potential matches and those go nowhere you won't use the app for long and the company fails.
Do you think dating apps exist to hook people up in relationships? They can't really make money that way as connected people tend to stop dating.