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It occurred to me that, as an adult, I feel I need a reason to invite friends over. My wife thinks this is pitiful. I invited a couple of friends over for a curry and a boardgame night - it was a fine evening - but without that reason of having a shared activity, I'd never have done it.

Jusy wondered if I'm alone in this, and if there's any men out there who DO invite male friends over with no plans or expectations for the evening?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I feel like this is just semantics?

Your wife has friends over surely - what do they come for? "a chat", "a coffee", a "catch up"? Isn't that an event and expectation too? It's just vaguer.

It's no different - it's just you hang yours around activities or shared experiences because that's how you and your friends operate.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago

it is how we operate, but also there's little expectation of a catch up. We can talk all evening and be none the wiser as to what's up in each others lives, much to the chagrin of the women in my life who ask for such details