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Silliest thing I've read all day that you can't say happy birthday to a stranger and mean it sincerely. Preposterous.
Whatever though, I'll respect your wishes, and won't say it. BUT I STILL SINCERELY HOPE TODAY IS THE TINIEST BIT LESS SHIT THAN USUAL FOR NO PARTICULAR REASON WHATSOEVER.
Also, you don't own me, I can care about whomever I fucking want, and that includes you, asshat.
Just think about it: if a random co worker or something finds out that it's your birthday and tells you "happy birthday"... Do you really think he gives a single fuck about you? For real? Does he genuinely cares? Same scenario here, I'm a ghost, a nobody to y'all. So I'm sorry, I cannot believe you.
You know, my coworkers do care, and I care about them as well. I think you are trying way too hard to stay in this self deprecating state you are in. If someone tells you happy birthday why do you care if they truly mean it? They meant something or they wouldn't have even said a word. Just like all the people who have replied here. If they/I truly didn't give a single fuck we wouldn't have even clicked the reply button. Maybe try working on yourself and things might turn around, unless you don't really want that and are fine with the situation you are attempting to complain about.
People say it for obligation, courtesy not because they truly care.
Nobody can attest that we saw this post, there is no social obligation to say happy birthday