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How can I help get my friend clean from DRUGS? (reddthat.com)

submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Friend relapsed on drugs. It happens a lot. Rehab doesn't work. It's eating me up. I know they have to make the changes too. I know this doesn't rest in my hands alone. They need to want to be clean.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

He became homeless, mooched off the system for a year and then died.

Mooched as though it was a bad thing? If "the system" isn't for people suffering from an illness who is literally dieing, what good is it for?

I get you're mad at this dead person, but they deserved far more help then what little they got. Us too, thanks. Peace.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

Im deliberately being vague to avoid being linked irl to this story, but to assuage a random strangers' criticism of this situation: He applied for multiple of the same programs. He took advantage of the good will of charities and social services by using their services while stealing from them. He got kicked out of many many places during that year for forging identities and stealing from other residents. He had things like food stamps but would just sell them for fractions of their worth for cash. So, Yes he was a mooch. He was not in good faith trying to use these services to better his situation. He was using them to try and get his next fix.

I get what your trying to say but maybe try rephrasing it so its not so accusatory towards a person you have no fucking clue about.