My default coffee making is to heat milk, add coffee and steep it for a couple of minutes before I sieve it and voila.
This does not seem to work for this coffee. I have tried water, boiling it with the water or milk and it simply will not mix. What am I missing?
Edit: I know about grinding, I have a burr grinder, a French press and I know the various ways to make coffee. None of the methods I know, work.
Burr grinder = bar grinder. I made that mistake.
Our culture is deeply rooted in milk. We make coffee with milk directly. It's a bit different from the norm, but for me, that rich milky thing is a big ticket item.
Extracting with water should work better. You can heat up the water close to 100 °C to speed up the extraction. If you use milk, you can't heat it up that much without running into all sorts of issues. If you use temperatures that are reasonable to milk (55-60 °C), those temperatures would be super low for extraction. That's why milky drinks use water for making a highly concentrated coffee (espresso) and then mix it with milk.