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Today at work I was flipping some burgers as usual when a coworker yelled out to me "how to spell occupation" for some reason. She shouldn't have even been on her phone and I don't know why she asked me of all people to spell 'occupation' and why she needed to use that word in the first place is beyond me but that's not important.

I tried to sound it out I just didn't know how to spell it. There were like a bunch of other people they were all watching. I just broke down in tears then and there and ran to the bathroom. It was so embarrassing. I left like 3 hours early as I just couldn't take being there anymore. I can't stop thinking about it. I made myself look so stupid in front of everyone. I know I have to go back there soon but I can't handle the humiliation and + I'm going to be in trouble with the boss for leaving early. I really don't know what to do.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Ok, you ran to the bathroom out of all places, you can use that now. You could say you felt sick, and then you rather went home because you felt too bad (maybe stomachache), you just forgot to notify someone.
Since you work with food, this could be (hopefully) taken even better. Although... I am starting to feel like hygiene is an illusion, but that may just be with frozen pastry (and region-dependent) ยฏโ \โ _โ (โ ใƒ„โ )โ _โ /โ ยฏ

Anyway, that may work as an explanation for the boss, probably not coworkers. If you're not friends, perhaps you could try ignoring them outside of work-related discussions.

But I am probably the worst person to take advice from.

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I really don't think lying is the best option unless whatever figure authority lacks any compassion.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Also the "I was violently ill yesterday but I'm here today doing just fine" is a little too easy to see through.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 14 hours ago

Especially because of the situation bwfore they entered the bathroom. Anyone would see through this lie. OP, don't do this.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Perhaps. As I said:

But I am probably the worst person to take advice from.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 15 hours ago

I'm not great at that kind of thing either.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

"Ok, you ran to the bathroom out of all places,"

I wasn't really thinking. I was just very emotional and looking for somewhere private.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think you misunderstood me.

I rather meant that as being something convenient for the situation. Perhaps the most convenient to understand (by others), out of all places.

I didn't mean that as insult, if that's what my wording suggested. Sorry.

But as someone else said, my route of lying may be a bad idea.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago
[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't think they meant that sentence as a criticism if you're reading it that way -- if you take it with the second part of that sentence, I think they meant "out of all the places you could have run to, luckily you ran to the bathroom which provides some convenient excuses for tomorrow".

I hope you're feeling better soon anyway, it sucks having a moment like that and feeling so humiliated :( we're all human though, and they will understand :)

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't understand why I'm like this. Ever since I was a kid I knew I wasn't like the other kids. Things that are so easy for everyone else are just so hard for me. I'm so glad things like speech-to-text exist or else I wouldn't even be capable of writing half the things I do.

I bet there thinking how stupid I am and how easy it was to spell. It's like school all over again.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I promise you they're not. Look at it with the roles reversed, would you be sitting there long after the shift thinking "Ha, that was so stupid, how could they not figure that out?" or would you have thought "huh" in the moment and moved on with your life? Maybe even felt some empathy for them.

Plus, they asked you, so they didn't know either. There are some people who never grow up after school, but the vast majority of people are just living their life. The people who haven't? We don't care what they think.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Sorry but this was very naive. Have you never been on the internet? All you ever see are people being made fun of for there grammar.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

The internet is not real life. People don't care that much IRL.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Have you never been on the internet?

For decades I've spent too much time here. The internet is not real life. With 8 billion people, it's incredibly easy to find a few hundred assholes at a time, they tend to find each other online. You had maybe a dozen people around you total in the moment.

Besides, correcting grammar on the internet is basically a meme coming from the days of forums. Sometimes even then, people are genuinely just trying to help. It's not that I'm being naive or trying to say most people are good people (though there's an argument for that), but I'm saying most people don't care enough about each other to think about something like this for more than a few minutes. The only new thing is that people keep recording shit now and posting it online, which sometimes goes viral. If that didn't happen then you're good.

Look at this post if you want to consider the internet, you have 38 upvotes and 2 downvotes and several people offering advice in the comments. MOST people just don't really care enough to judge you for this.

I will concede that from what I've experienced jobs where you're flipping burgers (McDonalds, Burger King, places like that) you can have a lot more young people working and it can sometimes feel like high school again, but it's usually just their own drama.