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How would you feel if somebody you knew told you they had NPD? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 week ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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If somebody you knew like a family member, partner or friend told you they had NPD would you still talk to them? Would it change how you feel about that person?

As someone with NPD I'm always worried about how having NPD would affect me socially. It's so stigmatised and people are always talking about how dangerous people with cluster B personality disorders are. I'm dating this guy at the minute. I really love him but I'm worried about how he would feel if he found out about my NPD. Would he still want to see me after what you see online about NPD? Should I ever tell him? Should I just keep it secret?

As of now I've told nobody about my diagnosis other than a few people at job interviews. What I'm basically asking here is 'How will NPD affect your social life?'.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

This, if anything it might clarify a few confusing exchanges we've had in the past, and it will certainly help me be a better friend in the the future.

If I already know you, I know you, I'm choosing to be friends with you because of how you treat me and how you treat others when we hang out together. If I had any problems with that, I wouldn't be friends long enough to hear you tell me about your NPD diagnosis.

Now that said, I've had friends tell me about a diagnosis and it shouldn't change anything, but now that the diagnosis is out in the open they want it to change things and I can't offer that to the friendship, such as compromising on my own boundaries (eg: I had a friend who after explaining their condition asked me to provide tone indicators for everything I say, but I have alexithymia so that was really difficult for me to do and I couldn't adjust my behaviour to meet the new expectations of the friendship, so we faded out of each other's lives, they told people I stopped being friends with them because of their anxiety disorder... No it's because I couldn't meet the changed expectations of the friendship, describing my emotions every minute is hard for me and I choose not to be friends with people who require me to do that for their comfort)