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I'm a big fan of Indian Matchmaking, and have also recently finished watching Jewish Matchmaking. Here are a few takeaways:

  1. These shows focus on a very specific culture, where a key feature is not having to explain to a potential partner the complexities of their culture.

  2. Most people who engage a matchmaker are serious about getting married and having kids. A small percentage are in the "see what happens" demographic.

  3. I like how you present your list of requirements and expectations upfront.

  4. Even when most of your requirements are there, it could still lack chemistry and fail. A majority of the matches you see on screen don't appear to have lasted past the TV show.

Would you consider engaging a professional matchmaker? Have you done this? What are your thoughts or experiences?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Is speed dating match making adjacent? I got blocked by an organizer a few months ago for asking more info on how much the speed dating session was. She said as a professional, I would be able to afford it. ๐ŸŒš Lots of condescending back and forth and then I got blocked.

Not gonna try that again. Right now, Iโ€™m having fun on an app. Dating at my mid 30s is really something else lol. Possibly going serious with one.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Tf? Sounds like you dodged a scam

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

There could be minimal screening for age range and other basic criteria, but speed dating is just giving people a limited amount of time to swap vibes with another person before they decide if they would like to see the other person again. For matchmaking, I expect a more thorough screening.

But your experience sounds rather dodgy, like she was screening for people who have the money.