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[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

Make sure you stay hydrated!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (5 children)

What y'all looking forward to this month? I'm just glad to clear off a bunch of work stuff and I got various craft and preloved markets to look forward to.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Yes. I am right now, one of the best versions of myself emotionally and psychologically. I would love to spend some time with someone who geeks about the same things, committed to learning and growth, and wouldn't have a problem with taking time away from each other to still be our own person.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I sokong this idea.

Doesn't have to be lunch. Could be a post-work outing with another one or two colleagues who are good at breaking the ice and knows the agenda.

And then ditch F31 and M28 halfway.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Wow, this is harder to answer than I thought.

Yes to relatively normal, well-taken photos showing the person in a range of activities/places/moods. They are only showing their personality and interests, after all.

No to:

  • only group photos
  • no photos of the person at all, just items or abstract pics
  • 3-5 of the same front camera, looking-down-at-phone photo
  • photos that seem outdated, especially if it's of an older man with one child (classic scammer)
  • holding a fish
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

There could be minimal screening for age range and other basic criteria, but speed dating is just giving people a limited amount of time to swap vibes with another person before they decide if they would like to see the other person again. For matchmaking, I expect a more thorough screening.

But your experience sounds rather dodgy, like she was screening for people who have the money.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

OMG yes, Sima Aunty is so entertaining. I can't wait for the next season.

Jewish Matchmaking was a bit hard to get into for some reason, but I gave it another go recently and finished it.

 

I'm a big fan of Indian Matchmaking, and have also recently finished watching Jewish Matchmaking. Here are a few takeaways:

  1. These shows focus on a very specific culture, where a key feature is not having to explain to a potential partner the complexities of their culture.

  2. Most people who engage a matchmaker are serious about getting married and having kids. A small percentage are in the "see what happens" demographic.

  3. I like how you present your list of requirements and expectations upfront.

  4. Even when most of your requirements are there, it could still lack chemistry and fail. A majority of the matches you see on screen don't appear to have lasted past the TV show.

Would you consider engaging a professional matchmaker? Have you done this? What are your thoughts or experiences?

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I love this idea.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I cant find the photos anymore, but I once went to a masquerade dinner wearing a Cyclops mask - similar to this but it ends under the nose. I bought it in KL during Halloween season from one of those popular shops selling these kinds of things. It was surprisingly good quality. I even stuck false eyelashes over the one eye. All night long, people were asking me if I could see through that mask and the answer is yes. My glasses even fit under it. I still miss it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Sounds like fun. If they don't specify what kind of mask to wear, get the weirdest one you can find.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I just finished Bangkit by Appy Mohd Hapizan, a Fixi Novel Sarawak 2016 contest winner. It honestly took a long time, and this was my second try.

The cool thing about it is that the dialogue is in Bahasa Sarawak. I'm torn about the use of real world places (actual business were used as a setting and not shown in a negative light); it helps a Kuching resident picture exactly where the story takes place. Even mentions the multiple roundabouts and the notorious traffic jam heading to Samarahan (most of the roundabouts no longer exist as of this year).

Interesting use of popular local folklore in the plot, although I felt that the book could have started at the 2/3 point of the novel and expanded on the alternate universe a little.

Not sure what my next read is going to be yet. I just scored a luxury edition of 'X: The Erotic Treasury" edited by Susie Bright and it's lying around within arms reach because I can't get over how beautiful the edition is.

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