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Why is it that compared to other mental illness's like depression, ADHD, autism and anxiety people seem to be so hostile to NPD? I always see things about 'mental health awareness' yet this is never applied to personality disorders.

Just look up "narcissism", "NPD" or "narcissistic personality disorder" and the results are about how dangerous people with NPD are and how to spot somebody with NPD or if your ex boyfriend is a narcissist etc... etc...

I was watching this video earlier by a YouTube user 'ShortFatOtaku' called "Low IQ Twitter Discourse Awards!" and there was this one guy on twitter who said that if you claim advocate for the mentally ill you such do so with personality disorders as well. A statement I completely agree with:

https://youtu.be/3EJedJ8MhNA YouTube

ShortFatOtaku response with "wow your going to let that narcissist kill you and take everything from you?" I shouldn't have to explain how bad faith and unhinged that is.

Why do people think this way about narcissists? Having NPD doesn't make someone an inherently bad person. As someone who has NPD I haven't abused or manipulated anyone ever. Sure, I struggle with empathy, I have to make an effort to think about other people and ok I have a never ending need for validation but that doesn't mean I'm a bad person I understand I have a problem I didn't choose to be like this. Manipulation and grandiosity are awful traits that I have but they don't define me. I'm a good friend, I'm a good sister, I'm a good coworker and there are people out there who benefit from my existence. NPD doesn't have to define me I'm more then my diagnosis.

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[โ€“] planish 8 points 2 weeks ago

I dunno dude, it's super weird. Sarah Z has a video about this, IIRC the explanation there was something like, people have latched on to "narcissist" as a thing one doesn't need to worry that one is oneself but can be tacked on to anybody one dislikes. Also there are demons involved for some reason.

(Having killed ShortFatOtaku's Twitter guy, and taken all his stuff, how would "the narcissist" go about extracting the validation??? Sounds made up.)

(Also it's always "the narcissist" like there's just one extremely busy person out there.)

NPD might make people struggle with empathy, but nobody, who is out there thinking everyone they meet could be "the narcissist" who is out to get them and not worthy of respect or consideration, is themselves killing it on the empathy front.