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As a shut in with social anxiety and very introverted I'm wondering how to find friends now that I got better. Basically starting from zero since I know nobody in my city so I'm wondering if someone has some experience with finding friends as lonely anxious introvert and just how other people find friends.

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 17 hours ago

Hobbies were always my go to in the past, but honestly I didn't have a ton of luck with that. I've made most of my new friends this past year in one of three ways:

  • Starting a group for people like me. I run a small but global chat group for people to find friends, I won't be linking it for privacy and safety reasons even in DMs, sorry.
  • Activism. Activists are the nicest people on the planet and just being in their presence generates friends. I'm on my way home from a huge protest, and I basically just walked around and sat in tents and people just befriended me without me prompting at all. The exposure at events like this has boosted my confidence a huge amount and now I'm one of those people who actively befriends others too.
  • Volunteering. Same thing as activism tbh, you build a sense of camaraderie very easily when you're working towards a common goal. I cooked about ~1000 meals at that protest as a volunteer cook and made about 20 friends in the first hour, it's nuts.