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People in their 40s and 50s with no children, how does it feel? (lemmy.ml)

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (3 children)

My life didn’t start until my 40s and so I’m really grateful to have the opportunity to discover myself and do the things that I want to do and not be tied down to the needs of others. It feels amazing.

I do want to add, I never wanted kids or get married. My childhood dream was to connect to my inner compass, be authentic and express myself freely. I am grateful to be able to actualize this.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

were you incarcerated

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 weeks ago

Internally. Yes.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I can relate to this person. I entered the job market in 2008, the same year the economy crashed. I was immediately screwed the moment I was old enough to work, which set me up for failure from the beginning. I'm now in my mid 30s and I feel like I just haven't been able to get my shit together no matter how hard I try. To this day I'm still working the same shitty retail and warehouse jobs for crumbs.

Edit: Meanwhile my GF is in her late 20s, has a work-from-home job that pays $24/hr, and is a homeowner. She's way more successful than I'll ever be, cause shit wasn't completely fucked by the time she started working. It's not fair.