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[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yup, I didn’t find my wife until we were both in our 30’s, but we’re both happier than ever. Finding the right person takes time and probably a lot of rejection.

Out of all the high school sweethearts who got married young, I only know one couple who is still together and doesn’t hate each other.

[–] Voroxpete 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yeah, most of the people I know who got into relationships young ended up getting out of those relationships sooner or later. I can only think of one exception. But the relationships I see people building in their middle age are so much stronger and healthier.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Yup, we tell people they’re adults at 18, but the reality is that you do a lot of growing and maturing in your 20’s. I likely wouldn’t want to date any of my high school girlfriends if we met up again today, simply because we’re radically different people than we were in high school. And the same goes for college years as well; I likely wouldn’t want to date any of the people I dated in my early 20’s.