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I think you have a point, and it is indeed something different - if two people live together and simply have different preferences or care about different things, it'll of course lead to some friction.
I think this goes both ways in most relationships. I keep bothering my girlfriend about the bathroom sink and the office desk we share; she complains about me keeping half dirty (half clean) clothes in a pile in the bedroom. That's not what it's about, though I think it can get easily confused.
It's more about the "I don't know how to use the washing machine/book bus tickets/change bags in the vacuum cleaner/cook a pie/change bedsheets/clean the toilet/make a vinegrette/change diapers/whatever", where instead of an emphasis on learning the skill it's only left to the other person.
It's not all men, but it is common. I think it's a systematic issue that men don't carry the full responsibility for. They're raised by mothers who do everything for them, and while their sisters are taught how to take care of themselves they are simply left to "be boys". And then they go out in the world and find a woman who can effectively replace their mothers.
It's the kind of guys who move away from home but keep going back to their mothers whenever they need laundry done.