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Sorry for the potentially controversial question: is it normal for less attractive people to settle down with partners they don't find physically attractive? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 3 months ago by RebiJes to c/[email protected]

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[–] WhyJiffie 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

If I may ask, was there any physical attraction between you two when you met?

To be honest, there is no other person here. Not yet, at least. My case is a little different, because it's not about how I look, not even the personality (but who knows actually? I know I have problems e.g. finding the right tone, and sometimes seeming harsh), but some other properties that are day to day pretty noticeable, and are often associated with being handicapped (not in the meeting of being silly) (even by myself when I notice it on others). I know that this is universally a thing (or rather things) that is hard to accept, and I seriously wouldn't want to live with someone like that either.

The point I wanted to make is that it's ok if no one wants to be with me.
I have not yet started searching for an "economical partnership".

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

I don't know you but my advice is that you talk to a therapist before you condemn yourself to a life of unhappiness. What you're thinking about yourself is not always objective, even if you think it is. Being self-critical is not the same as being realistic