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Dude I'm a poor immigrant in my 30s living with my family and unemployed without education. And I live in a small town in Italy. Millions my ass. And nobody would want someone like me.
Bet there are women in your town with prospects just as bad who consider themselves undateable.
You have to learn to stop hating yourself before you can expect someone else to love you.
No
Please seek help for your depression.
I won't repeat myself
Yet you keep posting how sad you are, almost as if you're trying to ask for help.
I didn't asked for help. And the sad part is so minimal I'm not even asking for help.
A friend of mine is a poor, jobless, dark-skinned Slavic person in Italy with the whole alphabet of disorders that lives with their family in the middle of nowhere and mostly does language stuff and poetry and all that. What they do is Tinder and Grindr... it works pretty great for them apparently and they've gotten a lot of great friends and people who wanted to date on there, although they're still guaging what they want and who can fulfil it.
Personally I prefer meeting people in third places in densely populated areas, but that's not an option for everyone. Especially if you can travel (like by public transport) to urban areas, there's always options if you look in the right places and try to seem interesting (which basically just means letting go of the concept of "cringe").