this post was submitted on 17 Jul 2023
30 points (84.1% liked)

Controversial - the place to discuss controversial topics

434 readers
1 users here now

Controversial - the community to discuss controversial topics.

Challenge others opinions and be challenged on your own.

This is not a safe space nor an echo-chamber, you come here to discuss in a civilized way, no flaming, no insults!

Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence, "trust me bro" is not a valid argument.

founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
 

Please keep it civil.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] MomoTimeToDie -1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah thanks for trying I’m still confused but I think I kind of understand. Out of curiosity about how old are you

Mid twenties.

I think the part I’m confused about is like why this is controversial

People don't like it when other people don't agree with them, especially when they've decided to stake their own personal self worth onto it.

I’ve miss gendered people several times and no one’s gotten ever mad or really cared since it’s not being done I’m mean or cruel way.

Nobody has ever cared likely because you yourself don't particularly care. That's not an insult, to be clear. What I mean is that you aren't trying to make a statement or anything, you're just going along with the flow. And I do that plenty because there's a time and place for activism and it isn't all the time and everywhere. But I encounter a huge amount of friction when I do try to make a point, especially with how fucking jumpy a lot of people are about it.

To put it in overly simplistic terms, the traditionalists hate that I oppose their strict gender norms, the trans crowd hates that I oppose their self-identity bullshit.

literally no one cares if you are being nice and treating people like humans

For a lot of people, "treating [them] like humans" constitutes subservience to the standards they put forward.

[–] Shit 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thanks that actually clarified this for me! 😊

Honestly the whole thing annoys me and no one shuts up about it... I hate culture war bullshit.

[–] MomoTimeToDie -3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I feel like a lot of people didn't play enough pokemon as a kid to have some words of wisdom carved into their brains "There's a time and place for everything, but not now". Like there's absolutely a time and place for discussions over social politics. it isn't omnipresent

[–] Shit 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Everything everywhere being culture war gets annoying really quickly. I feel like it was way easier to ignore a decade ago or talk though the issue. I also think the country is so divided and every culture/social issue gets turned into a wedge issue.

There's no way to even have productive conversations anymore without weird political purity tests from all sides.

I wish there was a way to get more cross political solitary. We could get so much done as a country. I feel like most people want the same things at the end of the day.

Like I love guns and gun things but most gun people and gun talk on the internet and in meat space is just weird culture war stuff. I should be able to go to the gun range without having to talk about or pass some weird political purity test... It's just so off-putting. I want to shoot my guns not listen to someone's feelings about children's gentiles...

Also I think if the gun community was more inviting people could have proper discussions on things like background checks or how to regulate guns or whatever without it turning into ban extended magazines or ban x because x... More nuance is needed by all sides but it's hard to do when everyone just screams at each other.

Everyone is in bubbles it's really bad for society.

I think people are really bad at judging what the other side believes or thinks.

Anyways I hope we don't have a civil war it will be really bad and bloody... We need a release valve.

[–] Shit 1 points 1 year ago

And on guns, I don't understand why people with the strongest feelings on not regulating guns are also people who do not own guns in my personal experience... It's really weird to me.