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We should normalize clear consent. (lemm.ee)

submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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People need to start asking clear consents before doing any sexual stuff.

Like before touching someone who is at the legal age, they should be asked clearly like "do you consent for being touched there" and it should be comfy and gult free, if the answer is no, then it should be accepted respectfully.

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[–] pezmaker 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I didn't think this is an unpopular opinion.

My experience may not be everyone's, but I'm in my mid 40s and I practice this for the most part and consistently run into it with new partners as well.

There are some things that are pretty obvious. But once things are getting going I always ask if it's ok before I take another step further if it isn't abundantly clear and asked for.

I learned dating in the days of "the guy must make all the moves and asking is a mood killer.". I like how things are now. I like that asking is not just accepted but generally becoming the norm. In a way it's kind of like dirty talk, saying the things you'd like to do. Even if the other person isn't ready for what you're suggesting it can still lead down other fun paths that they are ready for and willing to do

Of course this is all YMMV with different cultures and different people. But this has been my experience.