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Advice on finding a partner? (lemm.ee)

submitted 6 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I just got ghosted by the girl I was talking to, I want to find another girl to talk to. This girl and I met at the gym, but I don't want to be the guy that goes to the gym just to meet girls. I mean sure there's the bar and Tinder, but I want a real relationship. I mean, I guess it'll come to me.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Thank you for being one of the only people to be real about how it's not a guarantee. You might not find anyone. I see way too much fairy tale thinking and all the "just wait, she'll come" nonsense.

Being lonely sucks, being single in a society that requires 2 incomes sucks, but I think being in a shitty relationship just to be in a relationship is worse.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Unfortunately I'm writing from personal experience.

After too many years I don't think I'll ever find anyone. But accepting it was a relief. It's terrifyingly lonely at times, but at least I'm not suicidal any more. And I understand who I am and what is my way of life.

I can't understate the benefits of understanding oneself can have on mental health.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

I'm in a similar position, but I think I'm still working through "coming to terms" with my "situation."

It's definitely depressing as I've only had 2 real goals in life: be in a loving relationship, and own a home. Both of those are proving to be exceedingly unlikely to happen the older I get.