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Advice on finding a partner? (lemm.ee)

submitted 6 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I just got ghosted by the girl I was talking to, I want to find another girl to talk to. This girl and I met at the gym, but I don't want to be the guy that goes to the gym just to meet girls. I mean sure there's the bar and Tinder, but I want a real relationship. I mean, I guess it'll come to me.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 months ago (1 children)

The things that always works for me is stop trying and just working towards being a person I would want to have in my life.

At some point you will find yourself in a relationship without really knowing how it happened.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Yes. my major complaint in life is that most of my dates want to date a man who is a better version of themselves, but don't want to do the work to be that person themselves. They just seem to think they can absorb qualities via dating a better person or something, it's bizarre.

basically most of my relationships ended because she refused to do the work to improve her life, and wanted me to do it for the both of us.