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That is a quality of life issue. This person's issue is not their changing pronouns, it is that they are an asshole, who loves to milk the victim role.
I am a cis, male guy, who due to some hormonal issues looked androgynous and sounded like a girl when I was in my late teens and early 20s, and was addressed as "miss" quite often, and for the most part, people would just say "Sorry" when corrected, then address me as a guy.
This is how people should behave, the person you describe is just an asshole, whether they are aware of it or not.
Same issue I used to have with gay people, I used to think they were all loudmouth assholes, until I found out that what I had been exposed to was a loud minority, a ton of gay people are your regular Joe and Jane, and you would never know they were gay unless they told you.
Don't let a loud minority sour your day, you have been doing the right thing, and the downvoted are overzealous, reactionary assholes.
Did you ever have someone insist that you're wrong? I looked quite feminine from childhood all the way to around 25-26 years old. I can think of several occasions where people insisted that I couldn't be a man.
The most positive one was when I was flying to the U.S., and ended up chatting with an elderly lady for a few hours while waiting for the check ins. She had a massive wagon with pots and pans and whatnot, and I had a tiny carry-on. Eventually we realised we'd forgotten to exchange names, so we introduced ourselves. She was like "but that's a boy's name", "well that explains why your luggage is so small!" and every so often she'd say "I can't believe you're a man" incredulously.
Worst time was when I was frequently swimming in my teens, and a Karen-type person walked up to me, insisting I put on a bikini because I'm too old to walk topless. It didn't register with me that she mistook me for a girl at first; I just thought this pervert old woman wanted me to dress like a girl.
I know, they are an asshole. Just like many cops are assholes.
But give the propensity of assholes in the group, the safest course of action is to just avoid them entirely. I also have no interest in interact with police, and yet I bet nobody would call me a bigot for saying that...
Eh, that's different. Police officers choose the profession. Trans folks aren't choosing the trans life, they're discovering who they really are (maybe I should have just quipped "...the trans life chose them", ha).
There's nothing wrong with trying to avoid assholes, but when you start painting with a broad brush like that, well, it does smack of bigotry. Same energy as racists who memorize arrest statistics and then say things like "It's not racist if it's true!"
Also, to be clear: I don't mean to accuse you of anything. I just see some uncomfortable parallels.
Personally, I don't have a lot of experience in this area. I've really only been acquainted with two trans people, and I don't/didn't know them very well (I say didn't because I haven't seen the one person since before covid). Both were friends-of-friends type acquaintances that I'd see at game nights and the like.
Cool. I've been acquainted with dozens of trans people and known a dozen on a regular social basis and a few quite well...
turns out they are just like... people. some of them are cool... but a good chunk of them are selfish jerks just like any group of people.
for some reason people want to lionize trans people as they suffering saints... and anyone who criticisms trans folks is clearly a hateful bigot... which also tells me they know nothing about trans people and put them on a podium. the brush i paint trans people with is broad.... because they are people. they aren't some other subspecies of human beings with superior moral worth, empathy and insight. some of them are really great, most of them are not so great, and a bunch of them are awful humans who delight in antisocial behaviour. have you ever hung out in trans internet forums? they are full of awful hateful and bigoted shit... often direct at other trans folks, and incessant gatekeeping about who or what is really 'trans'. it's disgusting.
and being trans is a choice. just like me presenting a a cis het man is a choice. just like i wanted to dress up in a woman's outfit an go out tonight.. that would be a choice. just like the trans folks who go around policing other people's pronouns, fashion choices, and their gender worthiness choose to do that.
but of course don't let the complexities of the human condition and identity get in the way of a good 'hurrr durr well yer a bigot and i am a good purrrson for saying so' internet self-righteous indignation.