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the colleague in question feels that only her way of doing things is the right one and expects me to adapt to her way of thinking and her logic. This is tiring and burdensome because I have to force me to stop doing things automatically and efficiently, but think how she wants it done and do it her way. I work worse when this happens.

There are several ways to reach the same goal and I always adapt according to the situation at hand. I do what feels logic at the time and work my way.

I already told the charge nurse charge about it but I don't know if she had a conversation with this coworker and what was said.

The message has to be neutral and polite. What do you think of this?

I feel you believe you are my boss. You are not. Stop telling me how to work. It's tiring. You have your way of doing things, I've got mine, both equally good. Should you have a problem with this, contact the charge or manager. I'm gonna go work now.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Is ignoring her completely an option? That's my usual go to followed by telling them to eat a bag of dicks and fuck off, you're not my boss.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 8 months ago (1 children)
[–] xmunk 11 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Absolutely, it's fine to jokingly fantasize about this but it's fucking toxic.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 months ago

For real, anyone on my staff who acts like this would be in line to be fired. Handle interpersonal conflict like a fucking adult

[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

could you elaborate? I can understand why somebody would try to ignore or greyrock the person, simply to protect himself, (kind of a flight reaction).

[–] xmunk 2 points 8 months ago

It's unhealthy for the workplace in general, people need to be able to communicate.

The right answer to cover your own ass is to ask your manager what to do.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

has this worked for you? ignoring and avoiding a coworker. I mean I could see myself doing it if I don't care about the job or have something else lined up, but if I want or need the job, I'm having serious doubts if it would work every day.

Are you still employed where yo do/did this?