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How do I block judgemental assholes?
Hi,
I don't want to see assholes with low IQ who cannot be bothered to look at the settings and documentation of the apps and websites they use and who'll judge others based on his own preconceptions and biases.
-- People choose to share nudes or go into porn for a very wide variety of reasons, and you should not be assuming anything about their self-esteem, dignity or self-worth, because you don't know them or anything about them other than they chose a different lifestyle than yours.
It's ok to not want to see it, you can turn it off in the setting or block the user/instance/domain that may be not properly tagging their adult content, but it is absolutely not ok to judge other users and insult them publicly just because you don't like their lifestyle.
I have an entire friend group that shares nudes like it's selfies because for us it's just body parts like any other and we can admire the beauty of the human body. No feelings of vice or dirtiness involved whatsoever. I can go around seeing naked people and just appreciate the beauty without feeling dirty or even thinking about sexual intercourse and look respectfully. I feel comfortable being naked around my friends, I've been around friends literally hooking up next to me, it's no big deal at all. I'm cute you're cute, do you wanna sword fight? I'll happily talk about my sexual life (within respect of privacy of course). I'll talk you through your kitty issues and not think any differently. It's healthy in my opinion.
IMO healthy porn exists, there's a whole world between anti porn and hardcore fetish porn. I see nothing wrong with a casual pair of boobies or a dick.
Some people are indoctrinated by religion to feel like their body is dirty and needs to be hidden away, and feel shame to even think about sex or feel sexually stimulated by anyone but their spouse, and that's okay if that's their choice. And for some people it's just normal life stuff. I personally think religion is harmful and worthless but I don't go around calling people practicing it low life sheeps with no self worth or sexually frustrated closeted perverts.
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