It really feels like the best way to describe my gender. Something I've been working out is I needed my body to be female but my gender isn't woman. It's very comfy girl coded although sometimes I dress a bit androgynous and am like :sparkle: gender :sparkle:.

Also I'm a dragon because fuzzy creature good and also gender.

So like comfy girl fuzzy dragon genderqueer.

I had to get my body mostly right before I could really feel at home in my gender and that's interesting to me.

cross-posted from: https://pawb.social/post/7538738

Firstly, buuuuump! hehehehehehehe

Secondly, so, my trip to enbyness has taken a bit of a circuitous route, right? It took ages to realize that, hey, y'know... maybe I don't have to be a guy. I can be a girl! Yaaay! Finally free! So I hatched and be'd a girl for a while (... where did the past decade go, please help me get it back). Well, I kindof always expected I'd end up creeping enby-ward at least a bit but recentlish I got to having some feels and it's been getting to the point where I'm occasionally getting bits of a second dose of that hatchy euphoria. Turns out, I can wear through the gender hangups and start to just be me, right? So, double-yay! Kinda feels like I'm cheating, honestly 😅 Most people only get to hatch zero times, and even lucky trans-critters mostly only get to hatch once. So here I am, delightedly double-dipping discovery, digging into my 'dentity and hoping maybe somecritter around here has a story to share :3 That or I'm just yapping into the void. Even still, maybe I can fan the lingering enbers (harharhar, see what I did there? :D ) of this community!

Also any neat tricks for finding/committing to names/colour schemes/avatars would be nice :3 Actually I should probably just have another poke at making an avatar and just go for it but eep >.<; Triple-eep at making a top-level post 🙀

So, I've been going to the gym every week since October '23, which I enjoy. However, I've noticed my arms are getting thicker and my shoulders are looking broader, and it's making me feel pretty dysphoric.

At the minute, I'm just wearing baggy jumpers and hoodies, but it'll be too hot for that in a few months' time. So, are there any AMABs out there who can give me some tips to shift my appearance away from "man mode"?

EDIT: Fixed typo

cross-posted from: https://sopuli.xyz/post/6893359

I think that my gender changes more on the function how I decide to dress/express it.

When I dress as usual (neutral/masculine), I could use any pronouns. Heck, even sometimes, I think sometimes of myself in neutral or feminine... or mixing all genders.

When I dress in a more feminine way, I feel better with feminine pronouns. Or think about myself in feminine.

I just found out from my wife that if I continue to explore my non-binary identity outside of the confines of our house, she’s going to end up leaving me. Talk about a lose-lose scenario, fuck me. I really don’t want to hear the “you’re better off without her if she can’t be accepting” line of thinking. I get where you’d be going with that, but there’s a lot more going on beyond this wherein I need her.

Glad to see this exists

I'm so glad this community is here!

I'm thinking of starting a all-trans punk band (recording individually, a la Postal Service). Working title: XX Why?

Song titles so far:

1. Cissy fit
2. Sacrifice the patriarchy
3. Zaddy don't care
4. Bye bye binary

Sound would be a mix of Descendents, NOFX, Bad religion, Fugazi.

I play guitar, bass, vocals, and write...but I don't want to play everything myself. Looking for guitarists, drummers, bassist and vocals. Must have some ability to record a decent track. Not a serious endeavor, not a big time commitment.

This is the way.