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ok gotcha thanks for clarifying lmaooo i felt so judged fr

i guess i assumed i was talking about people who are normal about porn. but i mean, idk, i think knowing a few actors you like isn't like... crazy? there's probably a certain level where you're too interested in it, right, but i don't think that's exclusive to porn

there's also a thought like... yeah, i do miss being partnered... but, i also kinda don't. like, i'm chill with it. part of it is that i have an absolutely bonkers sex drive and i'm probably better off regulating it on my own than with a partner and the baggage that comes with. and i don't think i want my sexuality to be something that exclusively belongs with another person, i like having it for myself sometimes. i like that it's sometimes not about intimacy

don't get me wrong, really good intimate sex is incredible. it's great. would love to have it again

i just don't miss it that much, at least not more than i suffer from a general touch deprivation. i miss it the same way i miss staring deeply into someone's eyes and holding their hand and kissing them. but i think you get that re: rather have a long makeout session nowadays (even if it still ends in sex)

i like the intimacy, but i also like that primal place where you're just fucking. and honestly i guess it's pretty hard for me to get to that place with another person nowadays, i don't really trust people to be really sensitive to their needs and willing to speak up for them... LMAO ofc due to past experience

but it's fine, i'm more or less content engaging in it with myself

and the porn helps with that, it's fun and i agree, i don't think i can ever know if it was made consentually, i can at least try to do some research and support things where people do interviews and seem genuine and whatnot

idk how good of a job i did like... engaging with your comment as opposed to just kind of rambling about my own shit. but i liked your post and i hope you like mine

some of my friends are open to it but it's pretty sterile and devoid of details... so i wanna engage on a deeper level. although i don't really know what that means! and i don't want to come off creepy/weird/porn obsessed like i apparently did to another commenter LMAO 😭

sourcing good ethical porn might be a good topic of conversation tho, i'll try that. thanks for the rec, too

can you explain the part of my post that made you think i'm the kind of person who brings up porn in the average scenario... bc i'm not LMAO that's why i made the post, no one talks about sexuality and such... i spend a few hours a day playing games and i like talking with people about it... i can spend up to a few hours a day jerking off or w/e... i don't think it's so awful to want to connect with other people about it. but obviously i don't just dump this on people randomly??

but that's also why i made this post in the goddamn porn lemmy 😭😭😭

i can't speak for all vulva'd people, but... i feel like that's mostly a porn thing.

the amount of times i licked my hand before masturbating: once, to see if it was good. it wasn't (and i find it kind of gross. no offense to ppl who are into it tho). and i masturbate a lot

pre-transition, getting it wet wasn't even that hard. why would i use spit for that lmao. i mean some people might have that issue, right, but i'd still rather just use lube if that were the case

i think it's just supposed to be hot for whatever reason

not a doctor, but my experience as a trans guy has led me to believe that getting off isn't really a function of hormones so much as it is nerves. hormones help arrange some things (e.g. vaginal lubrication) that can make getting off easier / more enjoyable, but with enough patience, time, and comfort, you can more or less get off with the same intensity post-transition as one did pre-transition

although transmasc hrt does open up some new ways to get off that your kid will probably enjoy a lot lol

so my answer to this is pretty layered bc i'm a trans guy and the sensation for both has changed since starting testosterone

pre-transition, i liked anal but it was a lot of trouble for the reward and vaginal was super easy / pleasurable all the time (i was lucky and can orgasm from vaginal penetration, it used to be how i preferred to get off)

post-transition, anal is still a ton of work to prep for (esp given i consistently have gut issues)... but it's a WAY more pleasurable experience. i tend to re-discover it maybe twice a year. i'm not exactly sure what's caused it to become so much more intense (seriously, i get super shaky and wobbly nowadays), maybe testosterone made the nerves grow there more? i dunno

but also, post transition, vaginal is a lot more difficult (dry / sensitive) and i have to work pretty hard on getting warm enough to enjoy myself. i really have to be in the mood and have a lot of time on my hands and... well, sometimes it's hard to come by

i've edged for maybe a couple of days but it always leads to me being pent up and unsatisfied when i finally get off. so i try not to edge for that long and i always get myself off before i'm done. granted, on the other hand, i can always cum more than once. wondering if anyone else is like me

how into masturbation do y'all get? (genuine) i'm not really working my imagination for this, i'm pretty much just exercising a mechanical function here... don't get me wrong, i enjoy the hell out of it. but the porn is pretty much just another type of stimulation for me, i'm not really invested in it

if i'm imagining something, it's usually a more involved type of simulation (e.g. penetrative / prostate play)

but if i'm just exercising my dick with a stroker? it's kinda just mindless fun

lollll i'm not a lady, but i did once have tits big enough to do it, and... i dunno if you ever heard someone talk about sucking their own dick before, but i've always heard it described as "more like sucking a dick, than having your dick sucked"... it's not bad, but the contortion required often impedes the pleasure, also. but maybe my tits just weren't big enough?

regardless, they're gone forever now!

well i mean yeah. but unionizing would be the thing to do about it. it's just hard because people are scared for their job and scared to be out of a job right now, so they don't want to take the risk. even though it's fairly obvious that it's a bigger risk not to...