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Poland.

26 days off, plus bank holidays; minimum two weeks consecutively off work during the year.

Unlimited sick leave for yourself or taking care of children, need doctor note, paid 80%.

9 months full pay or 12 months 80% pay maternity leave. Somehow this can be split with the father, but I'm not up to speed on it. Then up to 3 years unpaid leave if you want.

Extra days off by law: 2 days when you get married, have a child born, death of your spouse, child or parent; 1 say when your kid gets married and death of a sibling, grandparent or mother/father in law.

These are all by law, companies can and do go beyond (e.g. 100% paid sick leave).

When do you look at/watch them?

Not OP, but same situation. I usually don't, but my mother who lives far from us does every day. We take a lot of photos and videos, she gets to watch them and she's up to speed on our kids' lives, can talk to them about stuff they did today, etc. We feel like it lets her be a part of their lives in a way.

Then you have that Google Photos feature where you get automatically created mini albums like "they grow up so fast" or "now vs then", it will compile a couple of photos from 7, 6, 5, ... Years ago and we watch those religiously, often coming back to the particular event from which some photo is. We can spend an entire evening going through older photos like that.

My wife and I picked an adult-only hotel for our honeymoon. It's fucking glorious. One of our fondest memories ever, and we cherish it even more now with third kid on her way to wreck havoc to our ears in a few short months.

Sure kids get bullied, that's the default. But why add such a strong factor willingly? That's what I don't get. I can only imagine the fucking hate some of the parents would be spitting out and obviously their kids would take it to school. So that kid would not only get bullied for any of the reasons you mentioned, they'd have their parents sexual orientation added on top.

Also, that last argument doesn't hold up in Poland. There are more couples wanting to adopt than children up for adoption. My close friends, unable to conceive, waited for over three years. The only children in the system are those in a middle of s legal battle that cannot be adopted until that battle is resolved. So it's not "orphan" vs "adopted by a LGBTQ couple", it's adopted by a cishet couple vs LGBTQ couple, and the latter definitely would seem like getting the short straw given current social context.

There are no orphans up for adoption in Poland, you have to wait your turn in line to adopt because there are so many couples that can't have children. My close friends waited over 3 years. The only kids in the system are the ones who are in the middle of a legal fight and can't be adopted.

Knives don't have feelings. Would you willingly put your own child through bullying for a better cause but of very little direct benefit to themselves (most likely, theres a chance they'll be LGBTQ too of course)? I wouldn't, I don't think it's worth it to make a child a martyr.

How is it "instead"? Why do you want to use children as weapons in changing those mentalities? I personally value the well being of these children higher than the right to adopt for these couples.

(copying from another reply I made)

I believe legalizing marriage, normalizing LGBTQ couples' status first to prove the general society that they're not actually some sick perverted sickos before we allow children adoption, should be the first step. Also waiting for the old people to die out, to put it bluntly.

Keep in mind Poland is still a hugely conservative society, in full grasp of the Catholic church. It's changing, you can clearly see the trend, but on the other hand our current government is still actively painting LGBTQ+ as some sort of harmful ideology or what not. We have a long way to come.

I believe legalizing marriage, normalizing LGBTQ couples' status first to prove the general society that they're not actually some sick perverted sickos before we allow children adoption, should be the first step. Also waiting for the old people to die out, to put it bluntly.

Keep in mind Poland is still a hugely conservative society, in full grasp of the Catholic church. It's changing, you can clearly see the trend, but on the other hand our current government is still actively painting LGBTQ+ as some sort of harmful ideology or what not. We have a long way to come.

I am against a law allowing LGBTQ couples to adopt children in my country (Poland). I am not in any way against it as a general idea, but Polish society is full of full-on bigots and these kids would be subject to so much bullying, it's really against their best interest.

The argument a lot of people raise "if we start doing it then people will get used to it" doesn't work for me, because why should these children be victims of war that is not even theirs to fight? The whole thing makes me sick.

I've been downvoted for this opinion by both sides on Reddit.

XCOM, or, more recently released, Baldur's Gate 3 fits too.

In English that's called paucal vs plural forms, Polish has the same rules as Russian.

Sidenote: there are translation systems that support it, e.g. Qt does (https://doc.qt.io/qt-6/i18n-plural-rules.html).

So does Jerboa tbh.