Thanks for the insightful post. I suppose I'll share my position in case anyone else stumbling across it is in a similar boat.
Personally, I would like to stay on reddit. I like many of the communities I found on there; the shear volume of users enabled more niche interests to find sizable groups. Of course, this is also what wrought many of reddit's problems, but I always seemed to be able to separate them from me. I found my way through the toxic users, but there's only so much you can do about toxic management.
Lemmy is ambitious and its existence is admirable, but I don't think it can capture what reddit had. I want to go back to reddit, but not to the reddit that is antagonizing its users like it is now; I can't support that.
Then why do you only do the opposite?