Not really, you probably can already see the posts on your frontpage feed (which is exclusive for your subscribed communities) and it also already should appear on your subscribed list.
And as the other user said, it is a bug that it appears as pending. At least on desktop when it days that I reload the page and press the subscribe button twice and it fixes, alternatively on the app "connect for lemmy" I have never seen the issue. But regardless it's not really a problem
Op, try presding this teo communities and subscribe just to check it's working properly
After you verify they are working feel free to unsubscribe of course.
Edit: after reading it again I'm a bit confused to what your problem is, so here is a quick run down of jow things should work.
From your own account, use the search bar to search for a community in another instance, there try to see button for about community (it might be different on each app) and lastly press subscribe. From yhere, all your subscriptions should appear the same regardless of where they come from.
You are doing it right, even on desktop it's the same thing. All one needs to do is search for a community from other instance in your own indtance and subscribe, you can even subscribe for communities outside of lemmy like kbin and beehaw
I'm a bit sad when it comes to smaller communities that have been struggling with content, problem is that for some of those hobbies it took a lot of time to reach a user base in reddit where there were discussions and interesting posts every day, here while I see a lot of committed users trying their bests some communities are simply unable to reach that level yet.
I am hopeful for the future, but in my case it's about people just learning how to use it which is something I kind of saw in Mastodon this past year. The way for content to remain high quality is through moderation and setting the example, not simply by being difficult for casual users since in my eyes they are needed in this kind of forums.
While there is less reddit content I do feel this past week it just got replaced with meta/threats, and personally it has been kind of even more tiring than reddit content as it has tended to feel like an echo chamber where everyone read the same post and spread a lot of negativity about how Lemmy won't survive Meta if we don't block instances that don't block threats and the like and also the idea going around that if someone wants to federate he is either ignorant or stupid, and talking about that, the elitism on this threats treating everyone on insta and threats as stupid people and saying they don't sant any of those people here because it dumbs down the content... This last week has been really toxic on the larger communities.
Sorry for that little rant, I had to get that out of my system jeje.
For me while scrolling through a threat I upvote those that I agree with and leave alone those that I disagree, unless it's done in an asshole kind of way which I kind of despise.
But if I make a post I do tend to upvote everyone which I kind of justify as "rewarding" people for interacting with me.
I support this despite joining because of the non block stance. It is unrealistic to not defederate from anyone (also imagine if there was an instance full of bots just spamming every threat and dm's)
But the point is that as long as the blocked are the ones that are strictly necessary, and the decision is properly communicated, then I'm fine with it even if it's not a temporary defederation like this one.
But they bought that one, we don't really have examples of meta doing EEE right? (Since 90% of those come from Microsoft and Bill Gates shuitty brain)
If you encountered a community like that, maybe they needed those, there is a reason they are there and people keep posting.
For the immaculate example, see r/askhistorians where I guarantee your answers will get removed even when properly sourced since it has to do with how tight their quality control is, which that was needed to make one of the best communities out there.
Rules are not a reddit especific thing, once communities grow bigger over here more and more will develop and perfect rules that better suit their identities, it is a necessary part of this kind of social media.
Your post kindd of reminds me of another post today where someone pointed out at 4 deleted comments, with no context and basically said "reddit doesn't respect freedom of speech, see how far mods have fallen since the blackouts" which was useless circlejerking, communities are no different that subreddits in that particular sense, moderation and rules will still be present here, a mod deleting your post has nothing to do with them being on reddit or not.
Come on what is this elitism, almost everyone has an Instagram, it's not that huge of a leap to just press the button that says threats, it's not a sign of stupidity.
Seriously there is some heavy gatekeeping and elitism going around whenever there is a conversation around META
Agree, by design the fediverse should be able to resist whatever the supposed harm is from META, I don't really agree with privacy concerns since everything on the fediverse is public, especially on kbin and lemmy, almost everything is already available to whomever eants it, there is no need to set up this hugr machination since they can already accomplish it so much easier.
Jaja I understand the need for time, we will see how things develop.
Just as an aside note, the idea of "at least my racist uncle won't join" is lowkey funny to me. It shouldn't matter if he joins, we have tools for banning and most people should already shun that behavior. After all, it's not like racism is safeguarded against because we keep normies out, at least two huge instances on the fediverse currently (or forks from it) are alt right cesspools. And I have seen a few andrew tate fans and also some racist pricks both over at madtodon and here, it's not like only kind people join this kind of places, but as long as we moderate properly it shouldn't be much of a problem.