DarbyDear

joined 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I've mentioned my thoughts on this a few times now, but you've summed my opinions up nicely! I tend toward longer, overly-drawn-out comments and replies, so it was kind of pointless for me to comment on stuff on Reddit. It went entirely against what was promoted by the culture on Reddit, which developed as a result of turning comments into a popularity contest. If you didn't have a gimmick (ShittyMorph, poem_for_your_sprog, shittywatercolor, etc.) then you were basically stuck using jokes, references, and acerbic jabs to try to get attention (as evidenced by karma). Even downvote farmers fell into this pattern, they just did the opposite of what the typical person would do, which resulted in even more toxicity.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just wanted to chime in at the end here and say thanks for mentioning us. I literally live a 20-minute drive from the nearest grocery store, out in the country, so bikes aren't exactly practical like they were when I lived in denser areas. What I try to do (to try adding to the conversation) is accommodate where I'm able. I have an electric car (2018 Bolt) that I use as my daily driver (my pickup is strictly for situations that the Bolt can't handle), I'm setting up a homestead to help eat as locally as I can, and I eventually plan on getting solar and switching off of heating oil. However, even my situation isn't feasible for everyone - my income is higher than the median in my state and I have the land to accommodate a homestead, so the only thing that can be done from my perspective is try to implement policies and infrastructure where it'll have the biggest impact to help offset the impact of those that can't take advantage of it, and see if there are ways to help those who live in rural areas even if they can't be applied to urban areas.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Close Talker by Nelward

He's got an interesting set of styles that I have trouble categorizing, but has grown on me ever since I found him a couple of years ago.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

That's both frustrating and appalling. This is a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation, because I can't even remember how many times I've seen the sentiment that "oh the conservative states have made their bed, let them sleep in it" without regard for the members of the queer community who still live there. Sometimes, that's even followed up with "just move out" when those members are brought up, completely disregarding whether that's even possible on a financial or emotional level. Every situation is different, and there is no correct answer. The best we can do is support people who are making decisions in good faith, as long as those decisions don't harm others.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I know it's not what you meant, but I immediately thought of this guy with Trump hair

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I thought this might have been sarcasm, but looking at the stuff you've posted... Yikes. I feel completely comfortable saying that I think anyone who posts content that attempts to downplay North Korea's atrocities can be disregarded entirely. Just to be clear, this is not an invitation to discussion with you, but a warning to others who might see your comment.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

This exactly - Lemmy is meant to allow community managers to focus on that portion while the developers facilitate their work. Speaking as a developer, there's a very distinct difference in the skill sets needed for each field, and there should never be an expectation for one side to do work in the other - trust me, some of my past coworkers are last people you would want managing a community in any capacity. Why should it be different going the other direction?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Thank you all for all of the work you've put in to make Beehaw the amazing place it is! For the record, that last line is the extent of my desires from the admins/mods here, as long as it's maintainable for y'all. I've hit burnout multiple times already throughout my life, so please listen to those of us who ask you to make sure you give yourselves time to decompress and not work on things - it's so incredibly easy to fall into a mindset where you feel compelled to keep going until you have nothing left (especially when you care deeply about your work), but it's not sustainable and it will cause you a wide variety of harm.

I also appreciate you beginning work on placing boundaries and managing expectations. I know there are tons of folks making all kinds of requests under the assumption that since you're an admin, you make the software (since that's often how it works elsewhere), but those people are going to have to realize that the federated nature of Lemmy means that you have no responsibility for bug and feature development, just getting the software to run, establishing and cultivating the culture, and keeping the lights on.

I wish I could devote time and energy to helping with bugs and feature requests, but my day job and the homestead that I'm working on getting set up with my wife take up more of those than I have available, to be entirely frank. Maybe when a couple of my bigger personal projects are done I can look at familiarizing myself with the codebase and contributing, but for now I will have to limit it to sending good vibes and supportive words wherever I can. You've all done a fantastic job setting up an honest-to-goodness community here, and I look forward to seeing it carry on! Don't grind yourselves down trying to fulfill every request and expectation brought up to you; you have supporters here who see and appreciate you, and there's only so much you can do.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Definitely! The big reason I decided to join Beehaw after taking a look at what instances were available is because the focus here seems to be building that feeling of community more so than just replacing Reddit, and I've already been feeling it in the best way. It's almost like a return to the days of forums where there were actual conversations happening, and I've actually slowly started recognizing names and avatars as I poke around in different topics. I'm not sure what things are going to look like further down the line, but hopefully it keeps developing in the way it has been! I do think it will, for what it's worth, since the admins and mods seem to be on the same page and dedicated to keeping the momentum going in that direction.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

No worries! I'm getting a lot of timeout errors today; either it's the increase in traffic from the blackouts or the update to Jerboa. Either way, it's no big deal!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm guessing the double post is thanks to the timeouts (what I assume is) due to the jump in traffic to Lemmy from the blackouts. It still makes sense to me though!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah, tapping into dopamine bursts to encourage activity is a great short-term solution, but I guess it was also foreshadowing into what Reddit would become. I'll take what I've seen here so far over the quick and easy hits any day; having a constant stream of bite-sized content to consume was wreaking havoc on my attention span and I didn't even realize it until I found myself having to stay focused on some of the longer conversations I've seen around Lemmy.

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