AceProgrammer42

I'm actually aro/ace tho. But as a femboy, femboys are still cute in an aesthetic way :3

Hehe same tbh :3

Uhhh, as an asexual this is kinda not a mood and also kind of a mood.

It was inevitable after their atrocious behavior. It sounds horrible to be caught in such a crossfire as an instance admin. Especially because they used their queerness as a weapon to paint us as the bad ones for splitting the community. A painful reminder that not all queer people are necessarily good people.

Thank you for dealing with this situation and making this instance a safer place.

Hopefully that does remain the same yeah. I think we'll be fine though. Most ace or aro people will probably be inclusive because they understand what it's like to not be (fully) straight. At least to me this made it a lot easier to also understand the struggles of other LGBT+ people.

I also hope that we can shake the "pendulum effect" that the subreddit had. Where there seemed to be a constant cycle of "subreddit is mostly sex-repulsed memes -> sex-neutral and favourable people feel left out and get annoyed -> subreddit is mostly sex-neutral or favourable memes -> sex repulsed and averse people feel left out and get annoyed -> subreddit is mostly sex-repulsed memes" .

This is actually one of the main reasons I had for coming out as aro/ace. Not necessarily only grandchildren, but also remarks about getting a girlfriend etc. Coming out had the intended effect though, it has effectively stopped these remarks from occurring.

There being many trans people says nothing about how good or bad it is. While we should ideally stand together, the behaviour of quite some hexbear users is honestly incredibly annoying. Us defederating would be a consequence of their actions. These are not "arbitrary reasons". They're brigading a lot of threads, constantly derailing the discussions with all kinds of whatabouttisms and overwhelming all other voices.

This very thread should've been a honest conversation with other blahaj users, instead hexbear has taken over everywhere and is leaving no room for opposition. Before this thread I honestly wasn't against them, but today I've been noticing them derailing threads everywhere.

I thought this was a bit overkill, because they seemed well behaved for the most part, although a bit annoying every now and then. But this comment section shows exactly why we probably should. They're so combative and seem to completely dominate the discussion.

I'm a guy (at least for now) and in recent years I've switched to basically using "female" versions of all shower-related stuff. Shower gel, shampoo, conditioner. The female versions are just super nice, whereas the "male" stuff is often "20 in 1 shower gel" or ridiculous stuff like the image is making fun of. I've gotten some shit for it at some point by a certain type of men, but I've actually also met plenty of guys who do the same.

Times are changing tho, and it does look like more and more "male" products going the right way with actually nice scents and separate conditioners.

"Straight" from what they are right now, so for a trans woman (MTF) that means being a woman attracted to men.

This is a common meme that's not meant to be taken seriously. I don't think OP is trying to literally spread that message. Someone else posted this example further down in the thread:

Had no real issues coming out as aro/ace. That being said, I've never really mentioned it at work and I'm also a bit cautious of doing so. The atmosphere there isn't necessarily anti-lgbt, but also definitely not very pro-lgbt. But I'm out to friends and parents and had no issues there