Maybe try a dating app? I've had good experiences with Feeld, Okcupid and Tinder. They're all pretty different. I'd suggest trying all of them and see where it gets you. If no luck, see if you can find a coach. Sometimes you can get feedback on your profile or pictures.
Lemming For Lemming aka R4R on Lemmy
This is a place for adult (18+) Lemmy users (lemmings?) to find others with similar interests. Tell us a little about yourself and what kind of lemming(s) you are hoping to find. We also strive to connect people in real life, so if you are seeking a penpal or something similar, this probably is not the place for you.
Formatting your posts helps everybody find what they are looking for quickly, so it will be enforced. [] # -
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The lets lemmings know your gender and that which you are looking for.
- Use either [M]ale or [F]emale based on the anatomy you possess. If you were born with different anatomy than you have currently, add a [T]rans before your current anatomy.
- If you are seeking either [M]ale or [F]emale, use [L]emming.
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Your should be a major city/county you are in or near and any state, province, country, or other information that might help other lemmings know where you are geographically. It is best to avoid local abbreviations or slang.
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Some Examples:
- 20 [M4L] #Chicago - Beantown Bowler Looking to Roll With You
- 35 [TF4M] #Paris - Meet for Crepes at the Eiffel Tower and Walk Along the Seine
- 78 [M4F] #Paradise Falls - Roommate Wanted. Must Love Balloons, Dogs, and Adventure.
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I had a lot more luck on Hinge. In my area at least, it felt like people were looking for actual connections more than the others. I second trying multiple though, feels like different regions have very different people on each app.
Um, ok so thanks for your suggestions and support. But I am against the concept of online dating apps. Not online dating, just dating apps or platforms. Because they are proprietary, and secondly you can't find normal, grounded, or real people there with real views, (it's atleast my personal opinion). So, that's why I'm here.
What is a real person with real views?
I'm on 3 dating apps. So I must be a fake person with fake views? I don't understand.
Here in this video zizek speaks about projecting fake personality https://youtu.be/rrxk2WzrE14?feature=shared