I only own one type of sock. No more matching and worrying in the morning. Just grab two generic feet coverings and go.
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Or, just pick two socks, without caring about matching them
It's fine if it's just colours. If there is a mismatch in length, or tightness, it messes with me more than I would like.
@cynar Its well known in my family that I always wear odd socks (not because I want to, but because I can’t ever face pairing them).
Last Christmas my mum bought me a set of five odd socks that were deliberately mismatched but also sort of matching. The problem is my mother in law bought me the same exact set of five socks.
So I now have five pairs of socks and I’m back to square one again.
At least the parentals know you well! 🤷♂️😁
This. I bought solid colour socks in many colours and always wear unmatched socks on purpose:)
I did this too, but it backfired horribly. I got like four packs of identical socks. But I guess two came from a different batch, because they feel different. So now I have to spend twice as much time pairing socks by feel, rather than simply being able to grab and go like I originally intended.
Oh. No. That sounds horrible.
A more subtle one. Get a bunch of bag clips (I used IKEA ones) then write the name of all the things you keep in the freezer (peas, sweetcorn, chips etc). You want 2 of each. Attach 1 to each bag in the freezer, open or closed. You also want a piece of string attached somewhere. When a bag is empty, put its clip on the string. Congratulations, you now have a shopping list. Once you restock, just attach the clips to the appropriate bags, before putting them away.
At least for my household, this seems to flow well. There are no hard steps, and an obvious flow to it. Unfortunately, I've yet to figure out how to extend it to canned food, but it works for any bagged foods (pasta etc)
Magnetic bag clips. Boom. Done
They don't stick that well to curved surfaces. They are also quite bulky, and we tend to pack cans into the cupboard quite tightly. If I could find some magnetic sheet with enough field strength, that could work. Unfortunately all the ones I've found are... lackluster.
I'll figure out a good workable solution eventually.
vyvanse
Weekly pill case for said Vyvanse. Cuz it doesn’t work if you can’t remember to take it 🤦🏽♀️.
Robot vacuum. Honestly made a huge difference. I'm able to keep my flat clean now, I mean I still have junk on almost every surface but my floor is so so clean.
Weirdly he (yes, I've anthropomorphised him) helps with the whole body doubling thing. I tidy up, clear the floor, and set him off while I go do the dishes and clean the kitchen!
I upgraded to the roborock S7 MaxV. My previous one just vacuumed. The new one mops, as well as changing its own water, and emptying its dustbin. It was expensive, but a good investment.
Might I advice adding some large googly eyes. It makes it far more hilarious to watch wander around. 👀
I saw one recently someone dressed up like a ghost for Halloween
Googly eyes! Great idea!
Me: Hyperactive, lacks object permanence, forgetful.
My partner: Inattentive, anxious, distractable.
For us it’s mostly been smart home stuff. Our doors have keypads, and they lock automatically if we forget to lock them. Smart speakers take notes and set reminders the moment I want to take a note. I used to have a “Magic Mirror“ that showed my calendar. From plants to lizards, we got lights on timers.
The other part is just planning.
We organize things by location and use, and work with each other. If she’s on a task, I have to let her think it out, or else she forgets stuff. If I’ve left something out and she doesn’t know if I’m done with it, she won’t put it away - lest I forget I was even working on something. We have a few free spaces in the house where we can ‘dump’ stuff - confined areas that visible though they don’t get lost/must be tended sometimes, so we can ADHD, without making out of control messes. We are intentional about where things live - if something gets put up and one of us can’t find it, we wind up with multiples of that item.
I always lock me in from the inside, so i can't leave without touching the key.
I have a rule of holding my keys in view while closing the door. Haven't had a single incident since. That said, that is a nifty way of doing it, I imagine my cat would play with the keys hanging out of the lock.
I always touch my keys, wallet, then phone when closing my apartment door or leaving a friend's house. Having the keys in hand isn't quite enough for me to feel comfortable.
Wallet, watch, socks, cock.
I've been living in the same place for 13+ years and I'm moving this weekend. I've never had to call someone to bring me a spare set of keys.....
....until yesterday. I had my spare set of (just) car keys next to my normal set of all keys. I have a club on my steering wheel so I couldn't even go do what I was going to.
That sounds dangerous in case of a fire.
All my friends used to have copies of my keys. I also had a copy in my desk at work, one in my gas tank, one in a key lock box. Now I have a keypad on the door so I only have to remember the code.
A hidden, coded lockbox can be a life saver. Nothing like the "Did you bring a key? No, I thought you did!" conversation.
Calendar on my phone. If a thing needs to happen it goes on the phone and a reminder is added for 15m to 1h before. Even things that don't need to happen at a specific time, add it to the calendar so I can plan out the day.
1000000000000% Calendar is God. I remember everything all at once, and this lets me feel free to forget certain things.
Now I have a layer of "Did I add this to the Calendar" to deal with, it's a trust issue with myself.
I have a bum bag (Fanny pack, hip bag, waist bag) which had my wallet, headphones, emergency spoon, and keys. When I get in it is put in the landing strip, when I leave it goes on. I have not spent 20 minutes panic searching through pants pockets on the floor since getting it.
emergency spoon
Go on....
Yogurt happens
Oh, well that's better than heroin.
Big ol' white board on my door so every time I leave, I have to look at the board so I can remind myself to do shit. Regular and calendar. I originally had the calendar elsewhere, but then I would forget to even change the month :(
I love foot pedal trash cans myself but they have a solid surface. My partner often piles stuff on top of the lid and trash being piled on the trash can essentially destroys my brain.
I like to keep my absolute necessities in hallway junctions, there's a hallway intersection that's a chokepoint between my bedroom, kitchen, bathroom and the rest of the apartment... in that junction there is a bureau and on that bureau are my meds. If I wake up normally, I walk by my meds. If I need the bathroom immediately after waking up, I walk by my meds afterwards. If I'm famished and go straight for some toast... I walk by my meds afterwards.
No matter the initial urgent tasks I'll always be walking by my meds when I have a clear mind.
If you have an iPhone, put your medications into the health app and set them as critical. Even if your phone is on silent, it will give you a notification sound to remind you if you didn’t log it. I would forget my Concerta every day without it.
List making and sticky note apps!
Yes. I use Google Keep for this and it does exactly what I want.
Ugh I caught myself staring at a wall whilst my brain ran away while trying to think of something. Carabiners for keys, you can clip them onto your purse, backpack, belt loops, etc. To keep from setting them down in random places or dropping them and then telling yourself youll totally swing back around to pick them up in just a second beforenyou forget you even dropped them and where.
I have a lanyard with a carabiner hooked up to my keys and tie it into a belt loop on my pants whenever available. So for most locks I don't even need to unhook the carabiner. I find that carrying things on my body is the best way to prevent misplacing them. Which, on a side note, is why I hate to carry things like pocket umbrellas. Despite the name, they don't fit into my pockets and therefore get put down anywhere when I need my hands free....aaand they're gone. But I have a snazzy messenger bag that has all my kit for everyday use in it, including a small umbrella.
I'm late but; Sunlight alarm clock. Best purchase ever. Wake up on time without feeling like crap or pressing the snooze button.